Being alone and lonely are two different things. And we know that trying to fill our lives with too much social activity just to not feel alone isn’t a solution. Anthony de Mello puts it well in his book, Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality:
“Loneliness is when you’re missing people, aloneness is when you’re enjoying yourself.”
The problem usually comes when people think they want to “live life to the fullest” so they go over the top. They obsess about attending too many parties or not “missing out” on cool events.
While it’s good to connect with others, it’s also great to be alone. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing things by yourself. Just learn to enjoy it.
Being alone happily is truly a skill. It’s an experience of its own. It allows you to listen to your inner voice and become more self-aware.
So the next time you’re alone and thinking of escaping that by being in the company of people; Try to take a short pause. And simply enjoy the quiet moment.
If you feel like you’re okay and you want to enrich your life with more social interactions, then do that. When it comes from a peaceful place, you will be fine no matter what you do.
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