《Why you can’t let go》

According to Hideko Yamashita, there are only 3 types of people in this world, who are not able to let go of things.

Type 1:

People who prefer to escape from reality

Among all these types, type 1 is the most common type among the three. You might be feeling extremely stressed in life, and facing a messy home might stress you out further. The more tiring you feel, the more you want to avoid tidying, and the more you want to escape from the messy scene.

Type 2:

People who love to hold on to their past

Life hurts at times, isn't it? The older you get, the harder it is to find joy. To a certain extent, holding on to the old things(Past memories) indicates how much you fear you will no longer experience the same joy you used to have. Think about it, you don’t need to hold on to the stack of your daughter's drawings to validate her love for you, nor keeping letters/gifts from your besties in grade school to feel fulfilled in your current life. 

Type 3:

People who have fear for the future

Whether you grew up not having enough resources, or enjoying a lot of privileges growing up, people still face the fear of not being able to sustain the current life they have. Whether it is the size of their house, the lifestyle they can afford, or simply things they can buy with money. However, most people don’t really pause and think about, how are these tangible things adding true value to their life? Are they really happier with more things money can buy? The habit of getting more become a way to secure a sense of security without knowing if they are actually feeling more secure. 

There are so many things people accumulate at home, whether it is clothes that you think you’ll wear when you lose that 10 lbs. You think “Someday they will fit”, but that “someday” is not today, not yesterday, and not for the past 10 years it has sit quietly inside your closet. Stacks of old drawings from your children that I just mentioned. Books that make you look smart but have never been read. Or Plastic bags you collected over the years.

Whatever it is, more things, things, and things will continue to weigh your life down, and will just stop you from moving forward.

So putting all this stuff aside, pause for a moment and think, what do you really need in life?